Pack Encouragement!

"If everyone received the encouragement they need to grow, the genius in most everyone would blossom and the world would produce abundance beyond our wildest dreams."
~Sidney Madwed

School bells will soon ring. The backpacks have been purchased and packed, new sneakers broken in, and a few kindergartners have already packed their first lunches. Upon outward glance, the children are ready. When we take time to look deeper, we'll find that a heart full of encouragement is an important additional supply they need to carry with them.

Children need our encouragement to build faith in themselves and their abilities. Each child will undoubtedly go through ups and downs this coming school year. Now and throughout their lives our children will need fortitude and optimism to maintain a willingness to try even in the face of disappointment. It is important for parents to encourage children with words and actions that promote the confidence needed for lifelong success.

Encourage with words. Tell your children that you love them, are proud of them and believe in their abilities. Compliment their strengths as well as noticeable growth in challenges they have been working on. Be specific so that they know exactly which behaviors warrant duplicating. Avoid compliments that bring up past mistakes. Instead of saying,"Your backpack looks neat now, I hope you can finally keep it that way." Try, "Wow, your backpack is so well organized! Great idea. I know that will be a really big help to you." Encourage your child through written word with notes in their lunchboxes or on their pillows.

Be affectionate. A hug, kiss or congratulatory fist pump can go a long way.

If your child has a learning difference or other academic challenges, set in place any additional support she may need throughout the year.

Nothing is more encouraging than the satisfaction of reaching a goal. Help your child establish her own personal goals for the school year. Write them in a journal. Allow your child to come up with strategies for reaching their goals. Gently guide them toward realistic and doable goals and strategies. This activity will build self-reliance, allowing your child to see her strengths and create a plan of attack for challenges. Additionally, it will give your child the ability to understand and communicate his needs making him a good self-advocate in the classroom-and later in life.

Continue to pack encouragement throughout the year, checking in with your children often to remind them of their capabilities and your love and support.
~Sheila~

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